Thursday, November 15, 2012

Thirsty Thursday: Young Christian Marriage




When I was 16 I met my husband to be. There were fireworks and sirens, the whole shebang! I was instantly in love and knew he would be my husband one day.. Almost 9 years later, 7 years of marriage, and 2 baby girls later, I am still in love with that man. He’s the strong silent type…You gotta really know him to like him…

When my baby cousin, well 21 year old cousin, called me the other day to let me know he was getting married {didn’t even know he was dating, let alone serious about marriage, lol} I was so happy for him, because I knew what a blessing my marriage had been to me {even at such a young age}

I seemed to be the only one happy for him, and that broke my heart. For obvious reasons everyone else thought he was crazy, and even though I don’t think his timing is the best, I still support him.

Over the next few days my family would call and ask me to talk him out of it, I started to hear a small voice pop into my heart once again… it was a voice that I had heard on and off for years while defending my young marriage to outsiders.

That small voice was my Heavenly Father, and what a sweet voice it was.

He laid it on my heart to spread the message that loves knows no age.
We are so proud of our young children when they accept Jesus into their hearts. We dedicate them, we throw parties for them, we video their baptism and tweet or Facebook about it later….

But we condemn young marriage…
If a child understands what Jesus did for us on the cross, then why can’t we accept young marriage?
If we accept that a child can fully understand the sacrifice displayed in Jesus’ ressurection, why can’t we accept that a young couple can understand the sacrifices given in marriage?

Because age doesn’t matter. It’s the willingness of the Holy Spirit that allows a marriage to prosper.
And this is exactly what I told my baby cousin, as long as you wake up every morning and submit to each other, you’ll prosper. Wake up every morning and do at least ONE thing to make each other’s lives easier.

I was 18 when I got married, and I was 19 when I gave birth for the first time. I was 21 when I came to know Christ and was 23 when I earned my Bachelor’s in Elementary Education.

My marriage is blossoming and we did almost everything backwards.
The Lord isn’t going to bless you just because you follow society’s guidelines of adulthood.
He blesses you if you put Him first and love one another.
It's has for me

If you’ve learned one thing from this post it's this. It doesn’t matter what the outside world thinks of your marriage… The outside world is a yucky nasty place.. full of godless people

It doesn’t matter how old you are, how many square feet you have, how much money you have in your bank account, or what your social status is. 


God will bless your marriage if you Him first. 

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10 comments:

  1. The Lord isn’t going to bless you just because you follow society’s guidelines of adulthood.
    He blesses you if you put Him first and love one another. It's has for me

    Love that! So devout!

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  2. Yes!!!!! Well said. I can really relate to this - I met my husband at age 15, started dating at 16 and married at 19. 8.5 years on and every day I am reminded that we made the best decision to get married back then, despite being frowned upon by a lot of people.

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  3. I pray blessings for your cousins marriage. I completely agree that if spouses daily submit to each other and the Holy Spirit the marriage will prosper!

    Tiffany
    www.pinkfaithtoday.blogspot.com

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  4. I truly believe ever word you wrote. While i was married young, i believe in different seasons and timing for everyone. I believe i'm in the perfect season to be married, just like i believe a younger person might be in their season. The number one thing is keeping the focus on Christ. If his leading your marriage from the beginning there nothing to worry!

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  5. Visiting from living for his glory- great post!!!!! We are 18 years strong and forever in love.

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  6. I was browsing about people's view of Christian singles dating and eventually marriage..I found your blog, which is very interesting. Thanks for sharing. God Bless :D

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  7. I was browsing about people's view of Christian singles dating and eventually marriage..I found your blog, which is very interesting. Thanks for sharing. God Bless :D

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  8. Amen! God bless you! I come from a small town in Michigan; a town with only recently one stop light where I graduated from the same high school as my grandparents. My parents were married right out of high school as was most of my family and friends. Let me tell you something, they are all still happily married. With Christ at the helm of their marriages and good upbringings, their marriages are solid. They all have a few years on me because I decided to break the mold, move to the big city and marry at 28, an old maid in my neck of the woods. My parents have been married 48 years this month. It's all about God and commitment to Him and each other whether you marry young or older. I just finished reading a great new book for wives, whether young or old, starting out or seasoned spouse. It's called "The Wholehearted Wife: 10 Keys to a More Loving Relationship," by Erin, Greg and Gary Smalley. Biblical, inspirational, affirming. One of my favorite quotes is, "Jesus is the ultimate source of our fulfillment in life. As our Creator and Savior, He is the only one who can affirm our value and meet our deepest needs. When our identities are anchored in Christ, the peace,freedom, and joy He gives us aren't dependent on our husbands or our marriages - or anything else!" I highly recommend it! http://www.tyndale.com/The-Wholehearted-Wife/9781624051463#.U6upS14Q7wI

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