Wednesday, November 7, 2012

Controversial Parenting Tag

This is a tag going around YouTube {Maybe even the blog world, but who knows}
I thought it would be fun so let's get to it! 

1. Pro-life Vs. Pro-choice
I believe that every woman should have the right to choose what is best for HER body, but before I start getting hate mail, let me explain something....That baby growing and moving around inside of you is it's own person... It has it's own DNA. It is temporarily a piece of you. It might not be precious to you, but that child is precious to a family that can't have children AND to a Heavenly Father. Every child should be given a chance to live and prosper. It is because of my religious beliefs that I will never support abortion.
Even if a woman is raped, I believe that adoption is the answer.

Behold the inheritance of the Lord are children: the reward, the fruit of the womb. {Psalms 127:3}

2. Baby Wearing

I love baby wearing, but my babies never liked it.. {insert sad face}

3. Circumcision

 And God said unto Abraham, Thou shalt keep my covenant therefore, thou, and thy seed after thee in their generations. This is my covenant, which ye shall keep, between me and you and thy seed after thee; Every man child among you shall be circumcised. {Genesis 17:9-10}

4. Adoption
I don't have a lot of people in my life that have experience with adoption, but I know that it can be such a beautiful, yet heart wrenching journey to adopt. It's one of the most selfless acts any parent can take part in for their child. If you think about it... everyone is adopted. Our Heavenly Father has "adopted" us out to our earthly parents. 

5. Baby Piercing
I don't have a problem if parent's choose to pierce their children, I just know that it's not for my family... when my oldest was four months old, we pierced her ears. She was so cute, but around 9 months she started actually pulling at her ears and yanking them out... so for our family, its a no go for safety reasons. When my girls come to me and ask, then they can get their ears, belly buttons, whatever they want. Watch this video on tattoos and piercings from a Bible World View.... It's pretty eye opening

6. Breast Milk Vs. Formula
Once again, because of my Biblical World View, I believe in breastfeeding. I was 19 when I gave birth for the first time and there was no question in my mind that I was going to breastfeed, but because there was no support from most of my family members, and because I developed mastitis, I resulted to using formula, and I have always hated myself for that. When my youngest was born I was determined not to let it happen again and I made sure I surrounded myself with as much support and knowledge possible... I hated how demanding it was, but the Lord used my breastfeeding journey to show me that it's not about me.. It's about my child, HIS child. With that being said, if for any reason a child needs to be formula fed, my heart will ache for that child, but you won't hear a single judgmental word come out of this girl's mouth :)

7. Spanking
My husband and I use spanking as a form of discipline, not punishment. Nor, do we agree that every situation warrants a spanking. I was spanked as a child out of punishment, so I feared my parents, and because of that there was a disconnect in our relationship.  

{The Biblical Approach to Spanking} is a great article that explains the exact reason why we choose to discpline our children in this manner

8. Co-sleeping
I think co-sleeping is great, especially for nursing mothers, but once again, it wasn't something that worked well for our family. When the baby was born we were living in a two-bedroom house so she had to sleep in our room. Apparently, she got her sleeping habits from me because everytime we rolled over she heard it and woke up... only until we moved in with my mother-in-law did she have her own room, and only then did I get a full night's sleep.
Every family has to do what works for them

9. Home Vs. Public Vs. Private Vs. Charter Schooling 
I would love to homeschool my children, but it obviously needs to be a decision agreed upon by both parents. Hubby and I are on opposite ends of the spectrum. You see, I have my certification in Elementary Education, and have been in the process of finding a job for the passed year. If I were to homeschool our children, then I just wasted 6 years in college and a year's salary to do so. Doesn't make much sense to us right now. I think for working parents, a private school is a great option, because then they have a say in what their children are taught as far as curriculum and Biblical content. I went to a charter/magnet school in highschool and I loved it. We had to keep a certain GPA and we had "academies" that were essentially majors in college. Even though I knew from age 5 that I wanted to be a teacher, it gave me the opportunity to explore my options. I wouldn't have a problem with public school if there was a lot LESS government involvement. A National Education system is just one step closer to socialism, and buddy, I live in America for a reason.

10. Vaccinations
we vaccinate, but each and every parent has to make the decision that best fits their family. I will leave it at that

11. Medicating Children
My sister was diagnosed with ADD when she was in second grade, and I know what a major difference it made in our family dynamic once she was. I think that medicating children can be a blessing, but I also think some teachers/parents/doctors jump too quickly into it. For the parents and teachers that jump into too quickly it's my opinion that they are tired, they don't want to deal with it, and they want to control the child to make their job easier on them... like I said earlier, though, for some children, it works. Once you've exhausted all options {different discipline, reinforcement, etc} then medication might be a viable option for you.

12. Cloth Vs. Disposable diapers 
I didn't think anything about cloth diapering when my big girl was little, but I was somewhat interested in it with this last pregnancy. I researched it A LITTLE and was left very overwhelmed and confused by ALL the types that were out there that I gave up. My grandmother clothed all three of her children, because that's all they had, but there are too many options these days. I know how to use a disposable, so that's what I'm sticking with. 

13. Cry It Out Method
I don't believe that you can spoil a child under the age of 12 months, but I also don't think you should give in to their every whimper and whine. When they are teeny tiny crying is their only way of communicating their needs and wants to the people around them, and because of that they should not be ignored. All I am going to say about this topic is, the older they get, the longer you should delay your reaction. When you are trying to teach them to put themselves to sleep let them cry for about 15 minutes. If at the end of that 15 minutes go in and check on them, give them what they want, and leave. The next night, make it 20 minutes. Eventually, they will learn to self soothe.

 With both our girls, if they bump their noggins' we  take our time to get over there, unless there's blood. If you don't make a big deal out of it, they won't make a big deal out of it. Most of the time if you ignore a noggin bump or a stumble and fall, they forget about it and go about their business.

I get the stink eye from other mommies sometimes because it can be seen as "ignoring" my children and honey lemme tell you... that ain't the case! 

If you stuck it out this long I hope you enjoyed all my rambling! and a BIG congratulations goes to you! 
now, it's your turn to ramble about your controversial parenting ideas!!

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  1. I love this idea and i have stolen it to post when im stuck for a post :)

    Love you girl and so glad we are friends

  2. In the N.T., it says that physical circumcision doesn't matter so much as spiritual circumcision because of the sacrifice of Jesus. So I think it's about personal preference.


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